One would think
that having an orgasm would be the natural result of having sex,
that the two should be synonymous and orgasm automatic. Nothing
could be further from the truth. Even for males, orgasm is
not a guaranteed consequence of intercourse or masturbation.
Men can fail to ejaculate for a number of reasons, including fatigue,
stress, drug-taking and anxiety.
When I'm asked about
this, I try to ascertain the state of the man's general lifestyle
because therein lies the answer to the problem. We are human
beings and not machines, therefore, we cannot perform on demand.
If a man is over-anxious about losing his erection, for example,
he may not be able to reach climax at all. Certain drugs are
known to cause prolonged erection, for example marijuana, which
enhances desire and performance but reduces urgency. This
would be fine if it weren't an inhibiting factor in ejaculation.
Much more common is the
female's failure to climax, and we shall look closely at this phenomenon
because it affects both males and females and their relationships.
Ignorance is a major
reason for many sexual dysfunction disorders, as individuals or
couples may be unaware of better ways to achieve the desired result.
Of course, it's not as simple as that, but it stands to reason
that we can't expect to interact successfully if we lack the knowledge
and experience of our own bodies and how to please our partners.
Let's look at what an
orgasm is, the types and varieties there are and what makes a woman