still favour the 'missionary' position, which entails the male lying
on top of the female and entering her in that way. This can
be done with both bodies flat or the woman's legs up over her head,
or the man's legs drawn up so that he's 'riding' her.
However, this is pretty
limiting if it's the only way that two people ever make love.
Let's briefly consider the advantages of various positions in love-making.
For closer inimacy, having
intercourse while lying on their sides, facing each other, is very
satisfying for couples. This can also be achieved by facing
away from each other, lying in what is known as the 'making two
spoons' position. The two bodies are curved into each other
and the man can move rhythmically and slowly into the woman. Pregnant
women find this position particularly comfortable as both partners'
bodies are being supported and there's no strain or hurry.
Intercourse from behind
is very sexy for many couples, perhaps because it's the least tender
and intimate of all positions. I remember one fellow telling
me that because his wife didn't enjoy sex and never climaxed, this
was the only way he could make love to her so that he didn't have
to look into her face and see the indifference.
It's also the most aggressive
and dominating of poses for the man and the most submissive for
the woman so it's closer to lust than to love, which is fine
even for couples who are emotionally involved. It's simply
another dimension. Sex from behind can be achieved by both
partners lying flat, or with the woman's bottom up in the air, which
is called the doggy' position. Another variation is for the
man to hold the woman's legs up as he enters from behind.
If this is done on the floor, or other hard surface, he can literally
walk the woman around as he moves inside her. This is known
as the 'wheelbarrow'.
The reverse missionary
position, that is, with the woman on top astride the man, has two
important advantages. The first is that many women can only
achieve an orgasm when they're on top. The reason for this
is that a woman can ride the man's penis at her own pace, to her
own rhythm, pushing up against the shaft with her clitoris, thus
bringing about a deep and satisfying climax. If she has already
had a clitoral orgasm, either before or during this process, a second
climax often follows quickly and easily because the clitoris is
Another bonus of the
woman being on top is as an aid to preventing premature ejaculation.
Because the male is able to lie relatively still underneath her,
he is less likely to trigger off an early climax. Many couples
have reported high levels of success with this method.
Obviously, there are
no limits to the variety of sexual positions that men and women
can try. It's fun to experiment and keeps love-making fresh
and interesting. I've only touched on some of the common and
significant choices. There are plenty of texts around which
depict the '100' favourite positions but really, you only need to
use your imagination and be guided by your partner and what feels
right for you both at the time.