Keep in mind
that romance and sexuality need to appeal to the senses so let that
be your overall theme for the occasion. Food is another very
important area. It's not just the fact that you might be eating
a meal as part of the proceedings; it's the type of food and the
way it's presented that will either enhance or detract from the
atmosphere you've created. Food is a very sensual feature
of life and some foods are 'sexier' than others. There's nothing
very sexy about a cauliflower or a yam, but asparagus, strawberries
and seafood are known aphrodisiacs. It could be because we
use our fingers to eat these foods and they're cool and delicious,
or it could be because they're considered luxury foods that add
to the specialness of the meal. Fruit is also excellent, especially
grapes, peaches and melon. Chocolates are a delicious way
to end the meal, especially if fed to each other.
My feeling about the
food for a romantic meal is that it should be less, luscious, and
luxurious. If I were planning the food for a romantic occasion,
I would not offer an entire meal, as who wants to make love on a
full stomach? I would have lots of little expensive nibbles
rather than something you would eat normally, like steak or a casserole.
It's also much nicer if you eat informally. A candlelit dinner
at the table is wonderful but, for a change, why not help yourselves
off a large server while reclining on a sofa, or on a rug in front
of an open fire?
Some people like to
eat in bed and others don't, but that would seem to be the next
obvious destination for lovers, together with a fresh bottle of
champagne and whatever food is left. That's another good reason
not to overeat there's nothing more off-putting than a whole
pile of dirty dishes and leftovers.
After all this, it would
be difficult not to be relaxed and, if you're ready, you can move
straight into love-making. If not, there are still many ways
to stay in foreplay mode.